tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824828113983189391.post5839214289968827391..comments2024-03-22T07:23:12.169-04:00Comments on Despite Lupus: Declaration #3: Rejiggering the way you think about "Z"Sara Gormanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07608238591846611898noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824828113983189391.post-21368230586962142172011-04-26T13:27:41.426-04:002011-04-26T13:27:41.426-04:00Ruth - Thanks so much for sharing. You definitely ...Ruth - Thanks so much for sharing. You definitely have to look past those crumbs...I will if you will! <br /><br />Sadaf - Thanks so much for sharing. Gives me inspiration to keep at my x,y, and z's, too! Hope you're well!Sara Gormanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07608238591846611898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824828113983189391.post-88945056900102987392011-02-13T03:29:12.237-05:002011-02-13T03:29:12.237-05:00I haven't been on here in a long while. Your ...I haven't been on here in a long while. Your recent X, Y, Z posts have given me something to think about, though. I know for a fact that one of the main triggers of flares, in my case, is stress. I'm a control freak and anytime things don't go according to plan, I stress. Prolonged periods of stress cause flares. <br /><br />Since my last flare back in Aug 2009, I have been working hard towards ensuring I eliminate sources of stress. I rest (9 hrs of sleep a night, plus an extra afternoon nap on the weekends). I have learned not to procrastinate (a major stressor for me). I changed my general attitude that life cannot always be planned. I still have one big one that I've been struggling with, though. <br /><br />I need to be more patient with my son. I yell at him far too much, I don't listen enough, and it does cause the both of us undue stress. So, my X, Y and Z will centre around this: <br /><br />I will stop yelling at him (my X). <br /><br />I will ask (and listen) about his feelings because, at age 6, he's old enough to express himself quite eloquently (my Y). <br /><br />I will let the little things slide. It's not catastrophic if he doesn't finish his lunch, or if he takes an extra 15 mins to complete his bedtime routine.<br /><br />With baby #2 only 6 weeks away, I need to get my current situation as well-managed as possible. Thanks for these posts :)Sadaf Shaikhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02374844486026161672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824828113983189391.post-56107717446342513202011-02-05T00:25:01.089-05:002011-02-05T00:25:01.089-05:00This is off-topic (I hope nobody minds) but I was ...This is off-topic (I hope nobody minds) but I was wondering if anyone here has read the book Moonface. I just came across a terrible review (if you can call it that) in the Washington Post, and am really riled up about the way some people (like the reviewer) think they get to judge others' lives and decisions. I have a serious chronic medical condition/conditions and have a hard enough time as it is dealing with judgemental, uncaring people at work. And friends who don't understand and stop calling and refuse to listen. I am not even dating anyone, let alone contemplating marriage and children - I can't imagine how difficult and painful it would be to deal with people who think they have a right to label a woman with a medical condition who decides to have a baby as immature, selfish, and greedy. Regardless of the circumstances, it's not right to judge!<br />Here's the article (thankfully, several readers have submitted much more thoughtful comments - I was heartened to read those):<br />http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2011/02/03/AR2011020306756.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824828113983189391.post-4276901156569897372011-02-04T15:03:39.096-05:002011-02-04T15:03:39.096-05:00Hey Sara, the Z is a tough one! Do you find you be...Hey Sara, the Z is a tough one! Do you find you become more driven & more of a perfectionist the more tired you become? I so do! When I get home from a morning at work & all I really need (& want) to do is get something to eat & crawl into bed, I find myself irked by my inabilty to do even the smallest task. God forbid there are any crumbs on the kitchen floor & laundry to to. As for emails, I won't even allow myself to turn on the computer these days, because if there is something that needs a reply I have just got to prove to myself that I can do it no matter how ehausted I am. So I am going to try oh so hard to ignore the crumbs, the laundry & anything else that goads me & just get on with napping.ruthnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824828113983189391.post-88495931472655754352011-02-04T09:29:20.707-05:002011-02-04T09:29:20.707-05:00Yes!!! You are doing such important work...caring ...Yes!!! You are doing such important work...caring for and loving the sweet family God has blessed you with, caring for your own health and well-being. Be free! :) -Mary KateUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09290819488239566804noreply@blogger.com